Life lately — and a new chapter in Brooklyn 🏡✨

What I've been up to lately

Hi friends,

It’s been a minute.

I’ve been quiet here because, truthfully, I haven’t felt like myself. A lot happened earlier this year — and a lot is still happening — and for a while, I didn’t quite have the words to share.

But I’m starting to feel like I’m on the other side of that fog. And I’m ready to bring you along.

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The biggest shift? My career.

I’m 32, and I’ve realized that for most of my adult life, I’ve measured my value by how I show up professionally. Not just the work itself — but the control. The feeling of being in the driver’s seat. Steering the ship. And believing if I just worked hard enough, I could control the outcome.

Well… life humbled me.

At the start of the year, the career I thought I was continuing to grow in shifted — in a way that definitely wasn’t part of my plan. And I didn’t like that. At all.

Suddenly, I was in limbo. I had to pause. To breathe. Which wasn’t exactly ideal, since we were in the middle of closing on a new home — a home that required both of our incomes to secure the mortgage.

It was stressful. SO stressful.

But guess what? It worked out. Not on the timeline I wanted. But we did it. We closed on our condo (!!). And we’re moving.

Our new home!

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Our new place feels like the start of something really special.

A fresh chapter. A blank slate. And truly — I couldn’t be more excited.

So much has happened in the four walls of our current apartment.

• We fell in love with Brooklyn.

• We got married.

• I let go of some major friendships.

• I watched my company go from flying high to falling apart — and had to make really hard decisions to avoid entering newlywed life in serious debt.

• I started a new job in tech.

• We lost our beautiful boy, Stout.

And now, here we are. At the start of a new chapter — one that’s all about building a home, a community, and a life in Brooklyn.

And honestly? I don’t think I’d be here if those life-altering moments hadn’t happened.

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I’m thinking about writing a separate post about the home buying process in NYC — it was wild. Kind of like wedding planning: so many steps, so many people involved, and so many things you can’t control. Let me know if that’s something you’d want to read.

And now the fun part begins — furnishing and decorating.

I’m so fatigued by the whole mid-century modern, West Elm aesthetic (no shade, just burnout). I have zero clue what our new design vibe will be, but I’ll share the ride with you. It already feels like an invitation to explore and experiment.

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Here’s what I’ll say, especially to anyone else sitting in uncertainty or transition:
It will work out.

Not always on your timeline.
Not always according to your plan.
But it will work out.

If there’s something you’ve been dreaming of, something you’ve been working your ass off for — hold on. Keep going. You’ve got this.

More soon,
Julian